Accepting Myself

When you compare yourself to others, you can’t win. Accepting yourself and changing the things you can, about yourself, is one way to serenity.

17 responses to “Accepting Myself

  1. @ Charlotte, I am so moved by confirmation, after I posted my comment and scrolled down to read others, and when I read your’s, it was like the Holy Spirit directed me towards it, and reading it confirmed the man in the mirror I was referring to, (Me), it was like looking in the mirror, so I can say I share your experiences, your pain and now together we share the joy of overcoming our obstacles, Amen?

  2. Imagine one morning waking up to face the toughest bully in your life, to face the your biggest fear, face your worst enemy, thats right the man in the mirror, I have learned that you can do more damage to yourself, than anyone else, by not believing in yourself and by not accepting yourself, I am overweight, I am in poverty, I do have mental illnesses, I am who I am, and I must accept that in order to accept everything else life has to offer me, and as a believer, I’m sure its a great gift from God!

  3. If we accept ourself by embracing thoughts in our mind, we are just accepting the illusions created by our mind. I believe real self-acceptance is a journey that goes beyond thinking and enters silence. That is where the Wisdom of the Body embraces life without any of ego’s limitations. From that depth, our love is pure, spirituality is an experience and creativity naturally bubbles up. No matter what our external situation is, we have the power to create a quality life. The quality of life does not depend on the health of your body; it depends on your focus. My book, A HEALTHY WAY TO BE SICK, teaches you how to control your focus.

  4. Growing up as a child who had no type of nurturing simply because my family did not know how to do that, I was one like so many who had less then low self-esteem. In fact, when I first started counseling my own self perception was summed up in one word “scum” I grew up very poor, I had to wear baby shoes until I was in the third grade, I used food to deal with my pain therefore I was made fun of for that. And all the sexual abuse from so many in my family made me feel like I was just a piece of meat for everyone’s use. I was able to hide these feelings and thought about myself simply because I had other personalities to help me cope. I did not feel that I had any value and I was not even worth stepping on. I do not know how much lower you can go in self esteem. I have come to love myself but much more then that I can honestly sit down and write about my limitations and honestly feel from my heart that I am a beautiful person. I accept who I am where I came from and why I am still around. Everything in my life seems to be a gift to me and instead of making me dislike my qualities they seem to be very endearing to me today. I see myself as strong, brave, resilient, gentle wise, caring, compassionate, loving intelligent, beautiful, outgoing, persistent ,determined, funny, giving, tender, and these are all from my heart. If others do not see me this way it is simply because they have not come to know me very well. I am who I am because I chose to put faith in my creator and just put one foot in front of the other everyday and when I need help I ask for it because I know now that this is not a weakness. I am here to stay and I love me !

  5. I am paralyzed from the chest down and was diagnosed with depression two months after an auto accident in 1990. But my life is better for it. My wheelchair has given me a platform to speak and educate others about my 4-point coping strategy for anything. Also, it took a wheelchair to find the man I love!

    I have authored “A Pocket of Poems and How to Write Your Own” which is a collection of my poetry and stories that led to each poem. My poetry is straight from my journal, derived from my depression. In the book I proviode 10 different types of poetry forms that can turn just about anyone into a poet.

    I miss the me I used to be
    Standing on my own.
    But now wheels go round Freedom found Independence shown.

  6. I have found that, by remembering I can always make another choice, I was able to move out of the hole sad emotions can make. Old beliefs can keep a person stuck in the past. When you look within yourself, to the core of your being, and realize that you are complete, you can make another choice about just how much of those old beliefs are yours. That releases anything that keeps you tied to what was, who you thought you were supposed to be by other people’s beliefs, etc.. When I decided that I had had enough of what others wanted me to be, I made the choice to take a good look at myself. I went to workshops, took journeys, did whatever it took to get me free of what I thought I had to be so I could be who and what I really am. The result of that is that I am at peace now, content to be who and what I am.

  7. We must never forget just how life’s value is interpreted. It is not the material things that surround us, it is the love that resides within us. I recommend starting the day with “I love me, I thank me and I am grateful for me.” Take time to look around and see the beauty because it is reflected back. Smile at strangers, greet passerbys and notice what others notice. You re ARE a child of God and know that you never walk alone….

  8. Something my mother always said to me when I was feeling down “God don’t make no junk.” While the sentence may not be gramatically correct, it’s spirit and meaning are unmistakable. I fall back to that when I’m feeling down and blue – I realize that no matter what my basis in faith, I can say that I was ‘fearfully and wonderfully made’ and I am not junk.

    Because of my basis in faith, I also believe that since the world was spoken into being (very early in the book of Genesis), that the spoken word carries a lot of power – therefore I speak positive things out loud – the positive words attract positive energy. Now is the time to speak only positive – speak into existence things that are not as though they were – and watch things change in your life. Give it a try – for 21 – 28 days – that’s how long it takes to create a new habit. Not so long when you balance it against the rest of your life!

  9. What at first seems like adversity, might just be
    redirection from what you think you should be doing to your
    real area of genius and inspiration.

  10. This web site is a godsend as people I love dearly from the past and in the present suffer from depression. I have just read Kaitlyn’s story on your web sit and it touched me deeply as it reminded me of feeling so alone during the fifteen years when my mother was suffering from mental illness and refusing to let anyone know. It took a lot to write my first book and share a little about what happened to my beautiful mother.

  11. Throughout my depression I had trouble getting organized and cleaning – which just made my depression worse. Eventually I started my own organizing business to help people like me decluter their homes. This brings peace not only to my clients but also to myself.

  12. Life does not bring you joy, you bring joy to life! This is a great quote from Erwin McManus and it’s true!

  13. I love me! I love the inner me! That person that talks when I think, the person that tells me not to do some things and encourages me to do others.

    I accept myself for what I am. I am not perfect. But I am never a defect.

    Life has so much to offer that sometimes we spend too much time looking for the big picture when the small picture will do.

  14. I struggled with low self esteem until I was in my forties. Then I became part of a group that valued personal development and I started saying some affirmations. One day I looked in the mirror and was able to say to myself “you are a great person and I like you”. That was amazing, to realise that it wasn’t the accolades of others that I yearned for, it was to like myself, just as I am…

  15. Capital A – Acceptance! Over the past twelve years I have learned so many lessons. I have learned that everything I think about another is actually my story, residing in my head, and anchored in my view of myself. I have learned that I shrink and pull back when I don’t accept all of my life – the good and the bad, even what appears to be unacceptable. Just last week I came face-to-face with the fraud within me, that part of me that judges other. I could watch as I made a judgment, unable to stop myself, and at the same time felt the burden of the judgment I was making. It was so intensely painful. Because I knew I must, I sat right in the middle this awareness, the judgments, the fraud and watched all the ways I hold myself small as I hold others small. Interestingly enough, when the parade of shame slowed and then stopped, judgment was gone.

    What I experienced was a dark night of the soul. And dark it was indeed. At the time I wouldn’t have recommended it to anyone. All my normal escape routes were closed. I could watch as my mind tried to escape scrutiny. I could see an aspect of myself break away and tip toe out the back door, run around to the side-door, and try to take up residency again, hoping to go unnoticed. Only a few days before it would have worked, before I had seen the fraud and the unending stream of judgments. Now it didn’t.
    The week before I had seen how I had hidden beliefs under the guise of a higher truth. Once hidden they became sacrosanct. That time it was about the power of not-knowing, of being willing to sit in uncertainty and await direction. I labeled it truth with a capital T. I didn’t see that by labeling it that way I was subtly giving myself permission to be right and making others wrong. It was Truth. I didn’t have to look there. When I saw what I had done a new level of unraveling began in earnest.

    I have been doing the work of digging into my fears for years now. In the 90’s I got tired of that knot in my stomach whenever I met new people or the nagging self-doubt. I wanted to meet whatever it was that kept that old programming in place. It has been difficult and amazing, painful and freeing. There is no going back. Self-acceptance is huge and of the highest value, for it determines how we view our world. Once I was willing to entertain the parade of shame, I found myself standing in the middle of a grateful appreciation of each person I met and their beautiful uniqueness … my own as well.

    Gayle Gregory is the author of the award-winning business management and leadership book, Workplace Evolution: Common Sense for Uncommon Times, and co-author of The Grand Experiment, an Expedition of Self Discovery. She is a former senior manager with two Fortune 500 companies and the co-founder of Workplace Evolution, a resource bank and finely-tuned human performance team that has the power to facilitate extraordinary change within people and organizations. Ms. Gregory also founded Pure Possibility, a coaching and mentoring program that works with individuals and with men in Oregon State’s medium security prison. Gayle is a sought-after coach, a veteran of radio talk shows, and an inspirational, take-no-prisoners speaker.

  16. Your approach to self-esteem and self love is awesome! Keep up the good work!!

    Thank you!!

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