Patience is an important character trait. Have you struggled with patience? How did you learn to be patient? Please share your thoughts on patience related to your life. Were you ever the type of person that felt that “I want what I want, when I want it.”

9 responses to “Patience

  1. Patience defined in the orginal Greek translation means to stay consistently cheerful. Many of our problems are often small or petty issues. In the American Indian wisdom tradition, it is written that God does not care for our petty quarrels. If depression sets in, we often fall victim to things outside of us. If the depression is self-imposed, this internal war can be stopped when we realize that we are bigger than our problems. We can transcend depression and other uncomfortable feelings when we elevate our minds to accept the wisdom of the past. When we use wisdom, we becomes victors instead of victims. The author of DON’T SWEAT the SMALL STUFF informed his readers that most problems are small things. If we attune ourselves to wisdom, we can overlook the small stuff. Many small items that bother us are worldly issues. We should be in the world but not of it. When we know that there is something in us that is greaer than those things in the world that tend to cause us problems, we should focus on the great inner resource, wisdom, to carry us through our issues. Living in the most stressful city in America, Chicago, compels one not to identify with those who remain in a sleeping state. The arrogance, anger, and lies of those who claim to be smart shows that these “smart” people lack wisdom and are unable to live truth. Their bullying manners encourage their victims to transcend their lower, animal or reptilian behaviors. By elevating our minds, we use the universal mind to live truth, and we feel confident in abiding in the truth. We can access our omniscience when we rid ourselves of dark, negative behaviors. Those whose higher consciousness is in the sleeping state cannot appeal to wisdom, morality, or truth. They cannot acquire the omniscience of the spirit because their minds are centered on the negative behaviors that seek control and attention.
    After teachingWorld Literature for 32 years in Chicago’s public schools, I retired and wrote UPSIDE DOWN WORLD: THE LOSS of the SACRED COSMOS to reconcile Western secular thought with Eastern and American Indian philosophies to bring America and Western society to maturity with their spiritual awakenings. When we are aware ( awake) that everything in the world is connected to the universal mind and spirit that created the world, we accept a dignity to live in order, peace, truth, and love. We drop the fear of the Western mind and use the mind that the past prophets, poets, and philosophers had encouraged their followers to use. There is a kingdom within the mind that has unlimited gifts of the spirit: patience, passion, compassion, empathy, faith, truth, love, morality, wisdom, and creativity. When we use our gifts to bless humanity, we are following the will of God and the orders of the great wise men of the past. When we know our spiritual inheritance, we attain confidence, joy, peace, and courage to solve all of our problems with the wisdom of the past.

  2. After I experienced the most horrible moment in my life it has taught me a great deal of patience, since 1996 I had been diagnosed and dealing with mood disorder and bipolar, so imagine if things weren’t done right on the spot and my way, I’d get so frustrated, and sometimes instantly outburst, but nearly a year ago back in December, I had a breakdown, and did something that caused me to be penalized by spending christmas without my kids, and that was like walls all around me falling, like me breathing under water (consequnces thereof), like taking my hold world away……..

    I had a stroke due to stress, worry, and impatience over 5 years ago, and I still deal with the symptoms of uneasiness, panic, violence character, etc.
    But when I feel it coming on (tempure), I pray and relax and relax and pray!
    Because sometimes it is best to be still and wait on the Lord…….

  3. Charlotte Leavitt

    I hope that I can give some advice about patience. Growing up I just was not wise enough to know about that quality however, I was always so fortunate that I never thought so much of myself that being impatient was even a thought in my mind. I have even as a small child spent so much of my time thinking and watching people and deciding if I wanted to accept what they were saying or doing because in my heart I felt that I wanted to be my own person. As a child when I was going through the severe abuse as I call it back then, I knew in my mind and heart that I was just an insignificant particle of the big picture. I think today that I was so priviledged to have that type of thought process and it was this process that kept me alive and moving forward. I do not negate the fact that as an adult I had many years of being suicidal in others eyes and I say that because in my heart I knew I did not really want to die I was just tired sometimes of hurting and then I would get my thoughts and emotions adjusted because I would reach out and talk to others who wanted to listen. However, through those some ten or more years of my life when I came to realize my childhood and my being so fractured there were so many that would not give me what I needed at that moment so I went within myself and called upon my true and honest connection with the spiritual side of myself and there came this calm inside because I knew if I found out as much as I could about my diagnosis that I would be able to understand and grow and learn and step back in pain sometimes and then go forward again. I say that it is like taking two steps forward and one step back. Progress is the two steps forward and the one step back is when I faltered and it was just because I have never claimed to be a perfect person, so therefore I can backslide but this is never a negative thing. I think the greatest leap to jump over is when others outside myself expected me to be perfect and to make better strides. I have come to realize that it is these very times in my life that I have had to show loving patience to those who felt that way ab0ut me. It was not always easy because I have never wanted anyone to be so hard on me because for so many years I have been so hard on myself. I just did not need someone else to put me down. So this brings me to my biggest culprit kin the act of patience and this is my own self realization. I need to take into considerstion my journey from the depths of so great a trauma last lasted most of my life that for so many years I blamed myself for what happened to me. I wanted to believe that my family loved me but they honestly did not know how to love me. Of course this was because they did not love themselves and I fully understand that from my very heart. I am so absolutely grateful from the depths of my very heart that I have such a wonderful and merciful father in heaven that knows what I have been through and understands me since he saw even the embryo of me in my mother’s womb. Maybe you can see why he allowed his only begotten son Jesus Christ to die for us because of our imperfections in which we were born. Patience is also one of the fruitages of God’s spirit so I better be trying to live my life with this quality because I, like everyone in this world was created in God’s Image that means we can all acquire that quality if we rely on our father. Thany you for listening to me!

  4. So, Beth, what have you been doing to get your memoir published? Have you gotten to the point of sending out queries to literary agents or publishers yet? I ask, because I am still in the process of developing my own memoir. I have been over three years trying to get my first ms out there, but no luck so far. Now I am putting my full efforts into the memoir. That may well be my first published effort. Maybe even my humor book that is still in the works. Who knows, and, I suppose, why should I care? It would only cause stress, and who needs that, right?

    Mikaya, I can really identify with much of what you had to say. I always say, “I wait for no man, woman or child,” but, of course, how much do I really mean it? Yeah, I’m always waiting on something or someone. That doesn’t mean I have to like it. Yes, even waiting for the traffic lights bothers me. It is such a waist of time when I could be so much more productive. I could be sitting at home at my laptop writing all these books that are in my head that may never get to Barnes and Noble shelves. No, just kidding – they’ll get there. It’s only a matter of waiting!!! Make it a greaat day. John

    • No John. Not there yet! This process has been harder than starting my own non-profit! I’m working with a Reader right now and doing lots of research. Uhhhhh. I’m with you. I will get there come hell or high water! All it takes is a little patience. Peace.

  5. I have been impatient the majority of my life. I always wanted instant gratification. This caused me to make bad decisions and to miss the big picture of things. I believe it was compounded by anxiety. Once I got that under control, I became more patient. I also learned to be patient by being with people (my husband) who where extremely patient. I had to learn patience. Fear and loneliness have also been huge problems for me. I suffer from chronic depression, was a victim of severe physical trauma (domestic violence) and had issues with abandoment as a child. Techniques that I used to cope were sleep and medicating – not good. I later learned a healthy technique, writing, which resulted in my memoir (not yet published).

    I don’t know who said it but when I am feeling discouraged I tell myself to “hang on, just hang on. The feeling will eventually pass.” It might be 20 minutes and it might be a day, but it works. There was a period in my life when I was extremely discouraged for a long period of time. Five years I guess. I had to move from victim to survivor stage and that took a lot of work. I was determined not to live in the past.

  6. I am the most gotta-have-it-now person I know. When I decide to do something I go do it right away. If no one else is ready, I don’t usually wait. When I was 16 and wanted to go traveling, I realized I’d probably never go if I always waited for someone to go with. So I went on my own. I’m 57 now and I love being on my own. I really enjoy my own company – or perhaps it would be truer to say I always feel accompanied anyway.
    Waiting for other people is still really hard for me. whether it’s waiting for a response from a book submission, or anything else. I have learned to occupy myself with other things. I can take great interest in patterns on a piece of material, or the way raindrops fall, or the way somebody is walking. It’s hard to do that waiting at traffic lights, so I rarely drive in cities. I hate to feel that I am under someone else’s control. I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad trait – I am certainly a free thinker. But I do have to develop strategies to stop myself getting mad when I am forced to wait. I remind myself that what matters is the process rather than the destination, and I watch what’s going on around me, allowing myself to be entertained by life unfolding in its myriad forms.

  7. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, and a lifelong sufferer of depression, I had virtually no patience for many years. It’s not that my life was more important than anyone else’s, it was that I no coping skills or tolerance for anything beyond my control. Life was a terrifying roller coaster ride that needed to be wrestled into submission RIGHT NOW!

    Over time, after years of therapy, and caring for animals in need, I found that I had acquired patience without even trying. Animals, in particular, taught me many lessons that conventional therapy could not: unconditional love, for instance, as well as selflessness, kindness, and patience.

    I still have many impatient moments throughout my days, but I am better able to tolerate them now. One of the tricks I use is to pick the longest check-out line at the store and stand in it, even if I only have a few items. Then I use the waiting time to plan activities, or simply zen out for a few minutes.

    Another way to harness patience in an impatient world is to spend time with my animal friends. They have no hidden agendas, they accept me no matter what I look or feel like, and they are always glad to see me. Making time for them recharges my batteries and pays patience dividends that I can use later in stressful situations.

  8. To some degree I still entertain the idea that “I want what I want, when I want it”, and even throwing in a couple more words like ALL and NOW adds flavor. The reality is that I have always had to wait for everything I have ever gotten, and I am now on hold for something I hold dear. In real life things just do not happen whenever you want them to. Patience is indeed a virtue, but it is extemely difficult to attain, and it does not just come naturally.

    I am an unpublished author, and I probably need to say little else beyond that for you to understand exactly where I am. The frustration has been the three years plus of searching for an agent or publisher who feels as strongly as I do about the message in my first manuscript that I wish to share with others. I am not just waiting in limbo, however. I have two other projects unerway, and that is pretty much where the patience comes in. I have more than a single message to share.

    I finally decided that it really does not matter which project is published first. Those ideas are not time sensative. If I can have a memoir or a humor book published before my book about the military is published, I am just fine with that. I am now 65 years old, and plan to be 106 before saying good-bye to the world, maybe longer. So, I still have at least forty years to get it all done. If it never happens, strictly a hypothetical scenario, so be it. Will my life have crumbled before my eyes? Nah, I don’t think so. But, it would be aufully cool to have an agent handle all three books, even though the second two are still in the works. Make it a great day. John

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